“We cannot do everything at once, but we can do something at once.” - Calvin Coolidge

Sometimes poking isn’t enough, sometimes it takes a big shaking to wake someone up. Or a bucket of cold water over their heads. It might seem a bit scary to start questioning yourself and your whole life, because it’s not really that bad, is it?! Hopefully, it isn’t bad enough to need a complete and immediate change. See, change doesn’t come over night. Not usually, anyway. It’s happened to me and to other people, but some of the changes I’ve made in my life have taken a long time to reach and some of them I’m still working on. Some of them I haven’t started on yet. What is important here is that you need to remember that “we cannot change everything at once, but we can do something at once”. It’s like a big jigsaw puzzle where you are the final result.

Maybe you need to change the way you think about yourself, you can start by picking one thing about yourself that you really like. It can be anything from your eyes to what a caring person you are when it comes to a loved one. And every time you feel bad about yourself, you redirect your thoughts to that one good thing that you really like about yourself. It doesn’t matter how many times a day you have to think about your friendly eyes, just do it. If you have more things you like about yourself you can alter them. Write down all the good things about you. What do you like about you? Never mind the bad stuff, focus on all the good stuff.

And then do the same thing about your partner, home, job, life, well, anything and everything you can think of. Just pick one little, or big, thing about it and focus on that one when you feel bad about it. So you don’t really like your job, but there must be at least one thing about it that is good, the money, your work or the hours you work. Change the bad thoughts into the good one. Try to add more things to the good list all the time, and you will eventually see that the way you feel is changing too. It’s not going to happen over night, but one day you’ll realize it.

This way has worked very well for me; hopefully it can help you too. It’s worth a try, right?! What have you got to lose?