"When I do good, I feel good. When I do bad, I feel bad. That's my religion." - Abraham Lincoln

Go with the good feelings, reject the bad.

This is the key! If you do good, you will feel good and if you do bad, you will feel bad. I believe that Abraham Lincoln was spot on about that. Because that's how it is, isn't it!? It is for me anyway. And I'm not only talking about doing good for other people, it works the same way when it's for me. If I do something for me, no matter what it is, and it doesn’t feel good it's not going to be good. That helps me know that it's not worth doing.

When I make decisions about something in my life, the first thing I do is to sit down and really think about it. I will think about the goal in question and I will be alert if it makes me feel good or bad. I mean proper good or bad. Does thinking of the goal make me feel happy? If it does, I know I'm on the right track. If it makes gives me any bad feelings I will know that that goal is not for me. If it makes me feel good, I know that it will happen, that I will reach that particular goal, maybe not right now, but when I'm ready for it. In due time.

This was how this blog came about, it started as a vague idea about six months ago. The idea of writing down my thoughts and beliefs about life and share them with others made me so happy. (It gives me a reason for why I've been through all the things I've been through in life) But then I got stuck, every time I thought about HOW to do it I got a bad feeling, so I eventually let it go. Until a couple of weeks ago, when it popped up in my head and I had a clear idea of how to do it. And it made me feel good!! So here I am, proud and happy and excited about this new thing in my life. And no matter what happens, and no matter what you think about me, my thoughts and my blog, I will always know that I did it because it made me feel good and happy and I did it in a way that I can be proud of. Every little detail is thought over, and felt good about.

So stay away from the things, actions and thoughts that make you feel bad and go for all the good feelings you can have. It is worth it, and it is so easy to do. And honestly, it is a fundamental tool to becoming happy and for me the only way to live my life. Good luck and feel good!

“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” - Abraham Lincoln

Is this true? I think it is. If you make up your mind and make a conscious choice to be happy, then you will be. But on the other hand, if you make up your mind that you need a certain person, a certain job, a certain thing, a certain house or a certain car to be happy then you never will be. You will feel a bit of joy once you get that person, job, thing, house or car, but that is not happiness. Happiness is being content with who you are and what you’ve got ALL the time. It goes hand in hand with love, that I wrote about yesterday. If you love everything in your life, you will be happy. If you choose to see the bad, less good or lack of things in your life, you are not happy. The only way to be happy is to be happy NOW. The good thing about that is that NOW is always. NOW is where you are right NOW, whenever it is.

In my experience most people are afraid of being happy. I’m not sure why, but it might have something to do with being afraid of losing it once they’ve “found” it. Or maybe it is just safer to remain where they are and pretend that they’re happy. Or what if the people around them will look down on them, or whisper about them, if they would be happy. I think all these things apply for a lot of folks out there. None of them are true though. If you are truly happy you can’t lose it because it comes from within you, it is not easier to remain in a state of false happiness than it is to be truly happy (quite the opposite actually), and people around you WILL look at you differently but they will whisper about how happy you seem to be and they will think about how much they envy you. How do I know all this? Because I’ve been the first one, the one being scared of true happiness, and I am the second one, the one actually being happy.

How did I get there? I made a conscious decision to be happy and I changed the things inside me, to be able to change the things outside of me to get there. If you are completely happy with who you are, and where you are I congratulate you to your wise decision. If you are not completely happy, maybe you need to take a look at yourself and your life and make up your mind where you want to be and be happy with it.